Ever wanted advice on your relationship from that cool guy friend who has all the answers? Well, Mr. X is that friend for you. Every other week, he’s going to answer the questions you send him and if there’s one thing you can count on him for, it’s being honest. So go ahead, ask Mr. X
“I was very excited to watch The Legend of Maula Jatt for so long. When the release date was announced, I planned to watch it with my boyfriend at the cinema, but we were not sure if he would be in Pakistan in October or not. Luckily, he is here butunfortunately, he went for the movie with his colleagues. I’m heartbroken. He says that he will go with me again, but his first reactions (which he shared with me via texts), I wanted to see it all, live. I waited for this! I can’t fix my mood and I don’t want toruin it for him, because he loved the movie, but I don’t feel like going at all now. I don’t have any sort of issue with his colleagues. But we planned this together! Even if I agree to go someday, it will constantly hurt me that he watched it without me, and I’ll be seeing his second time reactions. I know it’s a silly issue to get upset at, but what should I do?”
First of all, having watched the movie, I will tell you that if you miss watching this one, it really is your loss because this may bethe greatest Pakistani movie ever made (and no I’m not biased, and nor have I been paid to say this).
Secondly, it sounds like your boyfriend is trying his best to make it up to you, and it is possible that his colleagues forced him to watch it with them, or that he is trying to create bonds with his co-workers and that is why he went. So, give him the benefit of doubt, but I will also say that if this is a consistent behavior where he does not follow through on plans that he makes with you, then it may be time to have an open conversation with him about how this makes you feel.
However, if this is not something that regularly happens, I really think you should let it go. Go watch it with your friends so you’re not seeing his second time reactions and constantly thinking about it. It really is a silly issue, and not something to work yourself up about or him either. Being overly demanding is never a good look.
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